Unstoppable Success Tip: How Balanced Is Your 3 Legged Table?

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How do you find the balance for your 3 legged table?



The elements in life that require the most balancing can be divided into two categories: internal and external. Oftentimes, people focus on one more than the other.

For example, you may find that you focus on external things–like work, relationships, and activities, and that you pay very little attention to what is going on inside your heart and mind causing your table to fall flat on its face!

On the other hand, you may find that you spend so much time being self reflective that you sometimes miss out on the experience of living.

Other people may be fairly balanced between the two but might want to balance out some specific elements within each category; so I created this little outline to help us better understand the beneficial components on both ends of each spectrum.


Internal Table (Mind, Heart, Health)

  • Mind: Challenging yourself intellectually vs. creating opportunities for your mind to rest
  • Heart: Giving love vs. receiving love
  • Health: Eating, drinking, exercising properly vs. resting and treating yourself to some extra yummies

External Table (Work, Social, Family, Fun)

  • Work: Pushing yourself to achieve goals vs. seeing the bigger picture and enjoying the ride
  • Social: Satisfying your social desires vs. taking time for yourself
  • Family: Fulfilling your familial responsibilities vs. creating healthy boundaries
  • Fun: Allocating time for things you enjoy doing vs. making sure you don’t overdo it

As you can see, both ends of each spectrum are actually positive; but if either side is taken to an extreme, something that is intended to be positive can end up being detrimental.

It’s helpful to check in with yourself to see if you feel balanced.

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If you feel that your personal 3 legged table is off kilter, these steps may help you get your life aligned and your table standing upright.

1. Acknowledge.

Take some time to really look at your life, your state of mind, and how you’re feeling. Be honest with yourself and notice the areas of your life that you’re neglecting.


Notice if you’re leaning more toward an internal or external focus, or if there are areas within each category that you would like to be more balanced.

3. Set Goals.

Look at the outline to help you decide which ways you want to balance your life. Make a list.

4. Plan Tasks.

Make a list of daily, weekly, and monthly tasks that you will need to do to achieve each of these goals . What have you tried in the past? Did it work? If not, what can you do differently?

5. Reflect.

What is the most important thing you’ve accomplished in the past? How did you stay focused toward this goal? How did you handle your fears, doubts, anxieties, worries, and negative self talk? How does it feel to know that you accomplished the goal in spite of these parts of yourself?

6. Prepare.

What is your inner “stuff” that will try to keep you from sticking to your plan? (i.e. fears, worries, doubts, negative self talk etc.) Can you specify the things you will say to yourself to push you off track? (i.e. “just one more bite, I’ll start eating better tomorrow”) Make a list.

7. Empower.

What do you need to remember in those times? What are things you can say to that self-sabotaging part of yourself? Be kind to yourself. Balance won’t feel good if you’re cruel to yourself in creating it!

8. Connect.

Is there a person or a tactic you can use to keep yourself supported, motivated, and focused in those hard times? I highly recommend connecting and sharing your inner process with someone. Find someone who can help you challenge your inner demons, and celebrate your little accomplishments.

9. Plan.

Just like accomplishing any goal in life, it takes time and effort to overcome your habitual patterns and create new ones. If you stay on track with this detailed and intentional process for three whole months, then there is a good chance you will create new habits to enjoy a more balanced life going forward!

Brian & Rhonda Swan

Brian & Rhonda Swan

Each and everyday we check our balance for Family, Fun and Business so that our 3 legged table is always standing upright!

Rhonda Swan

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  • Gustavo Ceja

    Rhonda, Thank you for pointing out the point of my 3 legged table as I know it needs some major adjusting.
    Gus Ceja

  • Ron Simplified Myers

    Another awesome blog by the unstoppable family. You are all the poster of what a family enjoying this journey called “life” looks like. Keep being an example.
    Your Uplifting Life Partner
    Ron “Simplified” Myers

  • Angie Hakner

    Love this Rhonda, the idea of a 3 legged table for your family and yourself is amazing. I can totally relate to the Exercise, Mind, Business philosophy, coming from an ex Fitpro, exercise and diet is definitely one of my 3 legs and if I don’t get some form of exercise done each day then one of my legs is definitely off. Thanks for sharing this 🙂

  • Gonca Kacmaz

    Love love love this Rhonda, its exactly what I needed to hear to confirm it to myself again that there needs to be a balance. I realize it is hard to get that when you change something big in your life like what you do for living and especially if you are working from home. You need to have that discipline and daily or weekly planning and time management to have that 3 legged table balance. Thank you for sharing 🙂

  • Ellen Macieiski

    Love the 3 legged table! I have been living this same concept but the name is great causing a visual to go with it! Thanks for being such a great leader and mentor:)

  • Scott Stembridge

    Man, I love this analogy you use! And the fact it’s a core fundamental for your whole family is super smart! So much value, so much love, Peace!

  • Michelle Denise

    so clear and well articulated…thank you Rhonda! I love it…i know where I need to balance…& love how you say both aspects are positive it’s only when out of balance that it becomes detrimental…:-)

  • Regina Van de Velden

    i do remember you talking about this before and I’m glad you’ve written out a comprehensive post. sometimes we forget about our internal tables so it’s cool that you covered both internal and external.

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