Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra phone call: Best Advice of My Life
“Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life” Wayne Dyer.
I thought it was all a bunch of BS. I also thought I was the ‘cool’ guy back in the day mocking Wayne Dyer type of folks. Little did I know… Dr. Dyer’s teachings would transform me beyond my wildest dreams.
Let me share with you real quickly how my life looks right now. I’ve been traveling the world for the past 4.5 years with my beautiful wife, Rhonda, & our little girl who just turned 6. My passion is surfing so we have been travelling through the tropics to the best surfing spots around the globe… all while working wherever we choose.
So how I did I go from the ‘cool’ guy & get this ‘self help / personal development stuff’ away from me…. to a Believer?
I grew up in the same, small Midwest town from the day I was born…all the way to graduating high school. I then went to college and graduated from the University of Illinois (home of the Fighting Illini) with decent grades in engineering back in 1996. After college, I immediately got a job offer in California and moved out West. No complaints on the job right out of school… got paid well, had a company car, benefits & I lived in San Diego. For a guy in his 20’s I really thought I had it all.
I wish I could give you the sob story of I was eating ramen noodles, and I was one payment away from losing my house and my kids were hungry Then law attraction came into my life and saved the day everything wonderful after that. That would make for a better disney story but that is not my reality.
Law of attraction came into my life by fate I guess you could say. Back in 2005, my wife started an online business because she didn’t want to put our kids in daycare. At that time, we didn’t have any kids though we were ready to start a family. My wife started her business and she also started her mindset journey as well. I was like, “ Honey, please save it…you’ve been working your business for 3 months now, haven’t made anything and you want me to listen to this self help audio….no thank you”
I was just so stuck in the corporate way of life that I could not see anything other than that life….it was all that I knew. In my wife’s 7th month in business, she had a $37,000 profit month. That was more than both of us combined in our corporate jobs / month, which got my attention in a big way. The very first exercise I did was writing out how my ideal day would look. This was almost 8 years ago…I had so much fear of putting pen to paper and write it out.
Even when I was working my job, it was just a means to an a end. It was not my passion at all….I could not see myself doing this for the next 40 years, let alone another 10 years. It was a short while later that I left my job and joined my wife in her online business.
My wife & I both worked our online business from home for the next 3+ years and everything was just working in our lives. Just when we thought everything was perfect and nothing could go wrong….BOOM, we were hit with the biggest news of our lives. The real estate development we invested everything into…was all worthless. We lost everything in a blink of an eye. It felt like everything we worked for in our life…was being ripped right out beneath our feet.
For the 1st time in my life, I was truly scared about my life…my Family’s Life. I couldn’t look my wife in the eyes with the same confidence as I did before. Things got so bad for us that we couldn’t afford $10 Skype credit for our business.
During this crazy time, we would tune into Deepak Chopra Radio every Saturday morning @ 7am PST while enjoying our breakfast & coffee. On this one particular morning, Dr. Wayne Dyer was Deepak’s guest for the day. It was at that moment, that I told my wife to call in & ask for guidance on this bad situation we were in since both Wayne & Deepak were 2 of our top spiritual leaders.
We told them about the situation we were in… and Wayne just gave it to us straight. The real estate meltdown for us was in 2007 because of unethical dealings of a guy we trusted. We had so much hate and animosity built up in our hearts because of it. In the brief 5 minute conversation, Wayne Dyer gave us 3 lessons that will stick with us forever, “
“No one can make you upset, depressed, hurt, anxious, or fearful without your consent.”
“The worst things in life turn out to be the most important steps that you need to take, in order to get to the next place in your life.”
“The highest place you can get to with this individual is to practice forgiveness, instead of revenge & anger”
I was sort of there with Wayne up until when he said to practice forgiveness. In my mind, I thought, “are you crazy…. I want to rip this guys head off.” My next thought was, “well, there is a reason we are asking them for guidance”.
We both meditated on this & it has been the years & years of listening to people like Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra that actually kept our marriage together through this time in our lives. It was the most emotionally & mentally challenging time we have ever experienced.
To make a long story short about law of attraction, we then stumbled upon a book by Timothy Ferriss called the “4 Hour Work Week”. One of the main points behind his book was the ability to work & operate a business…anywhere in the world. In the summer of 2008, we were forced into bankruptcy, sold off our possessions, & started a trip with our little girl who was 1 1/2 years old at the time.
We started our journey in Hanalei Bay, Kauai….the place we were married (back in 2003) & also the place we named our daughter after. I remember sitting on the beach in Hawaii looking at the waves & it hit me….we were living out my vision I wrote 3 years before. I wrote about living in Hawaii & raising a family, surfing the best waves & being able to work a business from wherever & under my own time schedule. It’s crazy how things happen at times. Events don’t happen exactly how you expect, but when you put raw emotion into your vision….amazing things can happen. As Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra told us just a year before, “The worst things in life turn out to be the most important steps that you need to take, in order to get to the next place in your life.”
We originally set off on a 2 year journey around the world and now its 4.5 years later. We are still on our journey & loving it. Sometimes we just need a little patience and faith in our life. We need to understand that we are exactly where we are meant to be at this time. Life can change for the better so quickly….
I would love to show you how we changed our lives. This exercise was the very first journal entry I ever wrote out:
I know this post is a bit longer than you are used to reading….thank you for sticking with me. I am filled with gratitude for Wayne Dyer and everyone who has helped us along the way.
Now, we’re just paying it forward….
Cheers from our Unstoppable Family to yours….
Brian, Rhonda & Hanalei Swan
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