A Letter To My Daughter: Happy Birthday Hanalei

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Today is my beautiful girls 6th Birthday.

I will never forget the day that I found out I was going to have a little baby growing inside me.  I was so filled with happiness and joy that I was truly overwhelmed.  All I could think of is that I was chosen to bring  a life into this world, that through my guidance could make a difference.

Thinking this way created a whole new sense of responsibility in my life, and put me in a space of awareness for my actions, my thoughts and my words.  The thought that this little soul would be feeling my vibration for the next 9 months and then after would be watching my every move, seeing my fears, modeling after me and becoming her own true self through her eyes and how the world showed itself to her.    She would also be seeing the world through my eyes, and experiences and through that she would begin making her own judgements on what the world was.

I am blessed to say that for the last 6 years I have been the student, and not the teacher that I thought I would be.  Our children have so much OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAto teach us when they enter into our lives, and this has been shown to me day after day as a parent, a citizen a spouse and as a business owner.   They come into the world with so much hope, dreams and adventure,  and I feel are brought into our lives to help us see once again the hope, dreams and adventure we had as children that we may have lost along the journey of adult hood.   My daughter has helped me become a better person, to be kind, loving and forgiving and I cannot be more grateful for her and the gifts she has brought into my life and those around her at already 6 years old.

Happy Birthday by Beautiful Butterfly!  Mamma and Daddy love you more than words can every say, continue to shed your brightness to those around you for all years to come.

Dear Hanalei,

This is a Letter to you for creating an UNSTOPPABLE LIFE

  1. You are loved. Soooo loved! By everyone in your family and so many others.
  2. You have lots of friends – some will stay with you for a lifetime and many will come and go. This is life. Always be the best friend you can be and if it doesn’t work out, don’t make it about you. You’re a really good person.
  3. Love yourself. No one is perfect and we always have something we could be better at; sometimes we make mistakes – learn from them and move on. Take responsibility for your part, resolve to not make the same mistake again and forgive yourself.
  4. Love your body. You are beautiful. You don’t have to be skinny or tall to be beautiful. Beautiful comes in all shapes and sizes. Take care of your body – exercise and eat healthy and you will be beautiful.
  5. Do the best you can in school and don’t worry so much about what your grades are.  Believe in yourself. I believe in you, your dad believes in you, and so does everybody else in that list up there of those who love you. You’re going to be great at whatever you choose to do; the only thing you have to do is believe in yourself.
  6. Don’t be afraid to work hard. I know sometimes it sucks to have to work hard at something, but if you can work at it, without giving up, you’ll find it gets easier. I promise. But you can’t give up! You’re only giving up on yourself. I will never give up on you and neither will your dad.
  7. Don’t stress about the cool kids. The less you care about them, the more they will care about you. Don’t ever do anything just because someone else does it. Trust your gut – it’s a really smart gut and will keep you out of harms way. Don’t worry if the cool kids don’t think you’re cool- it’s not because of you- it’s because they don’t believe in themselves. Trust me – you are very cool.
  8. Don’t be defeated by “no.” You will hear it many times before you hear “yes.” But also know that sometimes no means no and it’s important to respect that. When you respect the no of others, they will respect yours. Learn to know when you should push or when you should respect a “no”. I know it’s confusing now, but with practice you’ll learn to know the difference.
  9. You can’t change people. Not men, not your friends, not your mother or your father. Accept the ones you want to accept, move on from the ones you don’t (except your mother or your father, of course). You won’t look back, I promise.
  10. When you feel down, find something that makes you happy, listen to music, draw, write a song or a poem. You are very creative and when you are doing something creative, you will find peace and happiness.
  11. Know that you are in charge of you and you can choose to feel any way you want to. It takes work to be your own master – don’t let the thought monsters control you! You can control them! Don’t accept defeat, just keep working at it. Even I struggle with those buggers from time to time. Know that it will all be ok, especially if you love yourself and remember that your dad and I will always love you no matter what- you’re never alone.
  12. Don’t believe the negative thoughts and stories that sometimes pop into your head – they aren’t true. Go back and read all of this again- this is the truth!
  13. There will be times when you think you hate me, when you are angry with me and there will be times when I am angry with you. That’s ok. Be angry, but be honest with yourself and know that even when I am angry with you – I still love you. The love I have for you can never be broken or taken away from you. It is a constant you can always count on.
  14. Please know that I am not perfect, no one is and I will make mistakes, too. I promise to always do my best to recognize those mistakes and work on myself.  You are my teacher and I am yours.               Love Mom

My girl

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  • Linda P.

    Rhonda, I’ve always admired you & Brian from afar. You two have inspired me beyond belief. You’ve been my role models for living a life without limits and this letter to Hanalei is just a testament to your commitment to truly make a difference in this world.

    Hanalei will grow up to be a Powerful, Loving, Generous, world changer of a woman. And I really wouldn’t expect anything less from your offspring.

    Happy Birthday, Hanalei! You magnificent being of light, you!!

    I love you guys!

    • Rhonda

      Thank you goreous girl.. That girl is my everything! XOXO

      Love you little linda.

  • Ashley Logomasini

    This is beautiful. 🙂 She’s very lucky to have you as her momma!

    • Rhonda

      Thank you lovley

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