6 Steps Of Mentally Strong People

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obstaclesI have been an athlete all my life.

When I was 6 I remember telling my Dad that I was going to play in the Olympics, I has no idea what I was going to do, but I was going to do it.

Softball became my sport at around age 8, I was hooked and completely addicted to learning this sport and being the best I could be.


At age 12 I was invited to play with a traveling softball team.   We travelled all over the USA playing against the best athletes in my sport preparing for the day Woman’s softball would be added to the USA Olympics.  This was our ultimate goal and our “Why” for being the best we could be at such a young age.

During pre-season trainings we were NOT  put through physical pain for strengthening our bodies, but a rigid schedule for strengthening our minds, below are the “6 Steps of Mentally Strong People” that was engrained in my mind from the age of 12.

1.  They move on and don’t feel sorry for themselves.

At 12 this is not the easiest, ( hell, at 41 its not the easiest either) but this principle has taken me to new heights in my life as a young athlete, a business owner and a parent.  If you screw up, or things don’t go right moving on is the only way you will make it to the next level.

2.  They embrace change & welcome challenges.

Change is inevitable, and without it you become stagnant.  The more we accept change, or new challenges the more we will grow and inspire others to grow.  As an athlete this is crucial, as a business owner it’s required.

3.  They are happy, don’t waste time on things you cannot control.

Happiness is a choice, and so is being offended or angry.  Mentally strong people understand that no-one, thing or circumstance can control your emotions or destroy your day.  If people in your life are not serving you then its time to cut the cord and let them go.  Happiness comes from within but can be tainted by things that do not serve you.  Choose to be happy, and cut the fat.

4.  They are kind, fair and not afraid to speak up.

Although, I was criticized growing up as being chatty, or the “Big Mouth” this very trait has given me more confidence, respect and positioning than any other trait.  Always respect others opinions, but be willing to learn from your mistakes and never be afraid to speak up for what you believe in.

5.  They are willing to take calculated risks.

“The difference between risk takers and calculated risk takers is the difference between failure and success,” ~ Robert Green   Risk takers bet it all on one roll of the dice. If they fail, they fail spectacularly and in such a way that they DON’T live to fight another day. They literally go out in a blaze of attempted glory.  But Calculated risk takers figure out a way to reduce risk with every step they take and become risk averse rather than a risk taker.  They only take small steps toward their goals, so they are not out much should they stumble, and before they take that small step, they figure out a way to minimize that tiny investment even further.

6. They celebrate others success and never resent it.

Being an athlete or a competitive personality, this is a tough one to swallow.  But the mentally tough realize each failure is an opportunity to grow, and other’s success an opportunity to learn.

Number 6 was one of the last lessons I learned as a young athlete.  Although, playing in the Olympics was my dream, time wasn’t on my side.  In 1996 woman’s softball was added to the Olympic roster, by that time I had chosen my career path, graduated college started my masters and locked my softball dream in the archives of experience. I could have easily been resentful or felt sorry for myself but instead I took those memories and the experience I gained into my adult life.  Sadly, softball was taken out by 2008 and will forever live in the dreams of many.

I hope this post inspired you to look at your life, your business or your career with mental toughness.

Feel free to leave a comment below and share your experiences.

Rhonda face#Be Unstoppable!

Rhonda Swan~ Unstoppable Momma


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  • Regina Van de Velden

    #6 is so powerful. My husband Mike and i were just talking about this with a friend we are staying with here on our New Zealand Visit. Incidentally she is one of the few friends here who keeps in contact with us where other friends have defriended and told us that they didn’t agree with our lifestyle. Odd that is considering we’re the happiest we’ve ever been.

    • Unstoppable Family

      I know the feeling Regina. Its the easiest way for us to re-organize our group of influence. The universe does it for us 🙂

  • Sara Espelho Vissers

    Thanks so much for sharing this. Something I am working hard at developing. I always enjoy your articles. I think I might be using that same video in my blog since it goes with what I am talking about in it.

  • Jayme Washington

    Great article Rhonda! #3 hit me the most….I think I can just waste time on trying to figure out what I CAN’T control. I need to just stop wasting time….stay happy and move on. Thanks Rhonda for a great article.

  • Val Cozens

    Thanks Rhonda, these are really good points for me to keep constantly aware of. Number 4 got me, I can sometimes be quite afraid to speak up simply because of things I was told as an enthusiastic kid…

    • Unstoppable Family

      Istn’t it crazy when we think about how we were brought up and what we do today as adults.

  • Miah

    Thank you for sharing this Rhonda! Mentally strong people have definitely taken charge over their own emotions and actions, and have decided that they are ultimately in control. We can choose what affects us!

  • Alicia Billman Kraemer

    What an incredible TEDx talk! I love the 6 things as well. #1 has always been an issue for me, although recently I had a huge shift in that area that has been awesome. =)

  • CJ Pereira

    Sweet this is so Right on point, these are great points that should be followed daily, this Blog is amazing value shared, as always you rocked it, Thank you Rhonda, with much love CJ

  • Shane Russell

    Amazing Story Rhonda! Great Post! love the 6 points!

  • Guest

    i wish i could develop these traits and live my dreams.i wish i could break free and just start living as opposed to existing.I just find it difficult to be positive with so many things going on in my life.

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